ब्रह्मांड द्वारा चेतावनी Wake up call by Universe

 ब्रह्मांड द्वारा चेतावनी

श्री शिव शंकर जी एक परिचित हैं जो एक कैंसर सरवाइवर हैं। लोगों के साथ अपने बुरे बर्ताव व छल प्रपंच के लिए जाने जाते थे और आज भी ऐसे ही हैं। औरों के साथ वही बुरा बर्ताव और वही छल प्रपंच। कुदरत की चेतावनी भी उनके व्यक्तित्व को बदल नहीं सकी। 

पड़ोस में रहने वाली वीना आंटी भी कैंसर सरवाइवर है। बच्चे विदेश में रहते हैं वीना आंटी अकेली रहती हैं और पहले की भांति अभी भी स्वास्थ्य के प्रति उतनी ही लापरवाही जितनी पहले थी। उन्होंने भी स्वास्थ्य संबंधी कुदरत की चेतावनी को नजरअंदाज किया। 

चारु और मोनू पति पत्नी है, जिनके बीच आमतौर पर झगड़े होते रहते हैं। फिर उनका बच्चा बहुत बीमार हुआ और मनोवैज्ञानिक ने बताया कि बच्चे को माता-पिता के झगड़े से ही परेशानी हुई है। समस्या अभी भी जस है। चारु और मोनू के झगड़े निर्बाध रूप से जारी हैं।

यूनिवर्स के द्वारा दी गई चेतावनी या वेकअप कॉल इन लोगों जैसे प्रायः हम सभी इगनोर या नजरअंदाज कर देते हैं और परिणाम स्वरूप स्थिति और भी विकट हो जाती है।

ब्रह्मांड से मिली प्रेरणा के बाद स्वयं में परिवर्तन लाना आत्मनिर्भरता से समर्पण की ओर बढ़ना है, जिसके लिए सचेत, धैर्यपूर्ण और निरंतर प्रयासों की आवश्यकता होती है। 

आध्यात्मिक सिद्धांतों पर आधारित परिवर्तन के लिए यह एक मार्गदर्शन का प्रयास है:

1. स्वीकार करें और समर्पण करें 

आमंत्रण को स्वीकार करें: अनुभव का स्वागत करें—चाहे वह संकट हो, सपना हो, या अचानक आया कोई घटनाक्रम — बिना किसी पूर्वाग्रह के इसे ईश्वरीय कृपा के रूप में पहचानें। 

नियंत्रण छोड़ दें: स्वीकार करें कि आप स्वयं परिवर्तन नहीं कर सकते और स्वयं को ब्रह्मांड को सौंप दें।

गलती स्वीकार करना और पश्चाताप करना: अपनी गलतियों को स्वीकार करें और अतीत के उन व्यवहारों से दूर हो जाएं, ईश्वर की कृपा से अपने जीवन को सुधारने की आशा रखें। 

2. सक्रिय रूप से अपने जीवन की नई शुरूआत  करें 

छोटी शुरुआत करें: अपने जीवन को रातोंरात बदलने की कोशिश न करें। प्रतिदिन छोटी-छोटी बातों के अनुपालन से शुरुआत करें।

विशिष्ट बदलावों की पहचान करें: उन व्यवहारों, दृष्टिकोणों या आदतों को स्पष्ट रूप से परिभाषित करें जिन्हें बदलने के लिए ईश्वर आपको बुला रहा है। 

जर्नलिंग का अभ्यास करें: आप जो सीख रहे हैं और ब्रह्मांड आपसे किस प्रकार संवाद कर रहा है, उसे लिखें ताकि सत्य आपके हृदय में दृढ़ हो जाए।

ध्यान/शांति: मार्गदर्शन पाने और अपने अंतर्मन से जुड़ने के लिए मौन और एकांत का अभ्यास करें। 

3. संगत और जवाबदेही खोजें 

सही संगति चुनें: ऐसे लोगों के साथ रहें जो आपकी यात्रा को समझते हों, क्योंकि पुराने दोस्त शायद आपके बदलाव को न समझ पाएं।

जवाबदेही तय करें: अपने लक्ष्यों को किसी भरोसेमंद मार्गदर्शक या मित्र के साथ साझा करें जो गति धीमी होने पर आपका समर्थन कर सके।

4. प्रक्रिया को अपनाएं 

धैर्य रखें: परिवर्तन एक जीवन भर चलने वाली प्रक्रिया है, कोई क्षणिक घटना नहीं—यह एक बरगद के वृक्ष के बढ़ने जैसा है, मशरूम के उगने जैसा नहीं।

खुद को क्षमा करें: जब आप असफल हों, तो हार न मानें। अपनी गलती स्वीकार करें, फिर से प्रयास करें और ईश्वर की कृपा पर भरोसा रखें। 

अपने विचारों और काम को लेकर जागृत रहें: अक्सर असफलता हमें समय की बर्बादी वाली गतिविधियों की ओर ले जाती है, इसलिए आगे बढ़ते हुए अपने समय का सदुपयोग करें। इसके लिए जागृति में रहें, चेतना में रहें, विशेषकर अपने विचारों और कृत्य को लेकर।

सकारात्मक परिणाम की शुभकामनाएं

Wake up call by Universe

Mr. Shiv Shankar Ji is known to me and is a cancer survivor. He was known for his ill behavior and deception with people and he is still the same. He has the same evil thoughts and deceit with others. Even the warnings of nature has not changed his personality. 

Veena Auntie, a neighbor, is also a cancer survivor. The children live abroad and Veena Auntie lives alone, is still same carrless for her health. She has also defied the warnings of nature about her health.

Charu and Monu are husband and wife who frequently fight. Once their child fell severely ill, and the psychologist found that the child's problems stemmed from the parents' conflict. The problem remains as it is. Why are Charu and Monu's fights continue unabated? 

These people, like all of us, often ignore this warning or wake-up call from the universe, and as a result, the situation worsens.

Changing yourself after a wake-up call from Universe involves a shift from self-reliance to surrender, requiring intentional, patient, and consistent actions.

Here are certain action-steps about how to change based on spiritual principles:

1. Acknowledge and Surrender 

Accept the Call: Welcome the experience — whether it was a crisis, a dream, or a sudden conviction—without judgment, and recognize it as divine grace.

Surrender Control: Acknowledge that you cannot change on your own and surrender yourself to the Universe.

Confession and Repentance: Admit your mistakes and turn away from past behaviors, relying on God's grace for restoration. 

2. Actively Renew Your Life

Start Small: Do not try to overhaul your life overnight. Begin with adopting small things regularly.

Identify Specific Changes: Clearly define the behaviors, attitudes, or habits Universe is calling you to change.

Practice Journaling: Document what you are learning and how Universe is speaking to you to solidify truth in your heart.

Meditation/Stillness: Practice silence and solitude to listen for guidance and connect with your inner self. 

3. Find Community and Accountability

Seek Right Company: Surround yourself with people who understand your journey, as old friends might not understand your transformation.

Find Accountability: Share your goals with a trusted mentor or friend who can support you when you lose momentum. 

4. Embrace the Process

Be Patient: Transformation is a lifelong process, not an instant event—it is like growing a Banyan tree, not a mushroom.

Forgive Yourself: When you fail, do not give up. Confess, re-commit, and lean on God's grace.

Be aware of your thoughts and deeds: Because a wake-up call often highlights a waste of time, use your time purposefully moving forward. For this be in awareness, be in consciousness, specially of our thoughts and deeds.

Best wishes for positive outcomes.

चयन शक्ति और कृतज्ञता Power of Choice and Gratitude

 चयन शक्ति और कृतज्ञता  Power of Choice and Gratitude

विवाह के मात्र सत्रह दिन बाद मेरी बहुरानी अपनी कर्मस्थली को लौट गई। मन बड़ा उदास हो गया, घर एकदम खाली खाली सा हो गया। 

फिर सोच की दिशा बदली, मन में विचार आया कि कितनी धूमधाम से विवाह सम्पन्न हुआ, फिर बड़े लाड़ से बहु का गृह प्रवेश हुआ। 

निमंत्रण से लेकर गृहप्रवेश तक हर रस्म के लिए मैंने गीत लिखे और बडे ही आनन्द से गाऐ।

प्रत्येक रस्म को हम सबने बहुत मौजमस्ती से निभाया। लगभग सारे परिवार और सगे-संबंधियों की उपस्थिति ने मानों कार्यक्रम में चार चांद लगा दिए।

बेटी, बहु, दामाद जी और बेटे ने शानदार योजना बनाई और परिजन ने उसको यथार्थ के धरातल पर उतारा। और एक शानदार यादगार आनन्दोत्सव आयोजित हो पाया।

और इस सबके लिए परम पिता परमेश्वर के प्रति कृतज्ञता से हृदय भर उठा। उनकी कृपा से ही सब निर्विघ्न सम्पन्न हुआ।

योजना बनाने से लेकर निष्पादन के लिए बिटिया-दामादजी, बहुरानी-राजा बेटे के प्रति भी मन कृतज्ञ हो उठा।

फिर मन ही मन भारतीय थलसेना में कैप्टन और डाक्टर बहु-बेटे को इन अनमोल स्मृतियों के सृजन के लिए कृतज्ञता ज्ञापित की।

सारे परिजन और सम्बन्धियों के प्रति भी कृतज्ञता दी जिन्होंने सहभागिता तो दर्ज की ही, साथ ही भरपूर सहयोग भी दिया।

और इन सब अनुभूतियों के साथ एक और विचार आया कि जिनके कारण यह सब संभव हुआ वो थे सरलमना समधीगण। फिर उन सबके प्रति भी हृदय कृतज्ञता से भर आया।

दुःखी हृदय अब कृतज्ञता से भरा था। सार यह है कि हम अपनी चयन शक्ति से सही विकल्प चुन सकते हैं।

पहले मैंने दुःखी होने का विकल्प चुना, फिर आदतानुसार स्वतः ही कृतज्ञता का विकल्प चुना और हृदय गदगद हो गया।

Just seventeen days after the marriage, my daughter-in-law returned to her workplace. I was very sad and the house felt empty.

Then my thoughts changed and I thought of the grandeur with which the marriage took place and the grand entry of the daughter-in-law took place.

I wrote songs for every ritual from invitation to her entry in her new home and sang them with great joy. 

We all performed every ritual with great fun. The presence of almost the entire family and relatives added to the grandeur of the program.

The daughter, daughter-in-law, son-in-law and son made a wonderful plan and the family brought it to reality. And a wonderful and memorable celebration was organized.

And my heart filled with gratitude to Almighty God for all this. It is because of His grace that everything happened without any obstacles.

From planning to execution, my heart felt grateful to my daughter, son-in-law, daughter-in-law and son.

Then, in my heart, I thanked my daughter-in-law and son, who are Captain and Doctor in the Indian Army, for creating these precious memories.

I also expressed my gratitude to all my family and relatives who not only participated but also gave their full support.

And with all these feelings, another thought came to my mind that the those who made all this possible were the simple-minded in laws of my kids. Then, my heart was filled with gratitude towards all of them.

The sad heart was now filled with Gratitude. The essence is that we can choose the right option with our Power of Choice. First I chose the option of being sad, then being habitual, I automatically chose the option of gratitude and my heart was filled with joy.

चयन शक्ति का प्रयोग Using Power of Choice

*•••꧁ शुभभाव ꧂•••*

जल्द ही मेरी राजदुलारी अपनी प्यारी नन्हीं राजकुमारी के साथ वापस जा रही है, यह सोचकर मुझे बुरा लग रहा था।

किन्तु मुझे एहसास हुआ कि ब्रह्मांड ने मेरी नातिन को नियत तारीख से दो हफ्ते पहले ही हमारे पास भेज दिया था, और इस तरह हम उसके साथ दो सप्ताह ज्यादा बिता सके।

इस नन्ही परी ️ को हमें आशीर्वाद स्वरूप देने के लिए हम ब्रह्मांड के कृतज्ञ हैं। दुःखी होने के बजाय, हम उसके साथ उन बोनस सप्ताहों के लिए भी ब्रह्मांड के आभारी हैं।

बात हमारी चयन शक्ति के उचित प्रयोग की है।

जो हमें नहीं मिला उसके बारे में सोचकर दुःखी होने के बजाय हमें जो मिला है उसके बारे हम कृतज्ञ होने का विकल्प चुन सकते हैंI 

ऐसा करके हम ना केवल अच्छा महसूस करेंगे बल्कि और भी अच्छी चीजों को अपनी ओर आकर्षित करेंगे। 

हमारे पास है चयन शक्ति, तो चुनते हैं अपने लिये सही विकल्प। या तो हम जो ना मिला उसके लिए उदास हों या जो भी मिला उसके लिए कृतज्ञ होने का विकल्प चुनें। इसका तात्पर्य यह नहीं है कि जो ना मिला उसके लिए प्रयास भी ना करें। ना मिलने के कारण दुःखी होने के बजाय सकारात्मकता के साथ किए प्रयास ज्यादा सार्थक होंगे।

मैं भी अपनी लेखनी को विराम देने का विकल्प चुनता हूँ और अपनी बिटिया और नातिन के साथ थोड़ा समय बिताता हूँ।

शुभ भाव 

Soon my Princess  will be going back with her cute little Princess . Thinking about it, I was feeling bad. 

Then I realized that Universe has sent my grand daughter to us couple of weeks earlier than the due date, and we could spend additional two weeks with her. 

We are thankful to the Universe for blessing us with this little Angel ️. Moreover, instead of being sad, we are also Grateful to the Universe for those Bonus Weeks with her..

It's about using our Power of Choice. 

We can choose to be grateful for what we do have instead of being sad about what we don't have.

By doing this, we will not only feel good but also attract more good things towards us.

We have the Power of Choice, so choose the right option for you. Either choose to be sad for what we didn't get or be grateful for what we got. It does not mean that you should not try for what you did not get. Efforts made with positivity will be more meaningful than being sad for not getting it.

I also choose to put my pen down and spend some time with my daughter and granddaughter.

Auspicious Feeling

पंकज कोठारी

Inspirational Author 

and Speaker 

Life Purpose Coach

Easiest course of the world

In KBC's TV commercial, Amitabh says, "ज्ञान जहां से मिले बटोर लीजिए, लेकिन पहले थोड़ा टटोल लीजिये." "Gain knowledge from wherever you get it, but before that verify it."

What an important message this TV commercial gives us about verifying the validity of any information.

Couple of years back there was a message forwarded on whatsapp which said that according to Guinness book, the toughest course in the world is Indian Chartered Accountancy Course.

In one of my training sessions a participant also made a similar claim. I asked him the source. He type it to search on internet and showed me an article which stated this fact(?). How authentic this article was? What was stated there was not a fact but merely an opinion.

Moreover, if we give it a thought, it's not easy to compare various courses. Also, it's very subjective. What is easy for you, may not be equally easy for me. Rather it could be difficult for me. Still if some one is trying to compare courses, s/he need to identify and mention the criterion for comparison. Even if s/he does that, that, in any case, will be her/his opinion and not fact. And opinions may differ.

If I write an article on "the easiest course of the world" and mention therein CA to be the easiest course of the world, and I post it on internet in that case, if you search on internet "the easiest course of the world," my article will be shown. Can you rely on  that?

Graduates of Whatsapp University 😜 make many claims but before believing in that, we much check it's authenticity. As also, we must keep in mind whether information there, is it a fact or merely an opinion. We must act accordingly.

And my opinion 😜 about Indian Chartered Accountancy Course is that it is easy for those who are focused and difficult for those who have many fronts to fight. 😅

What is your opinion?

How are you reacting? 🤔

Recently an acquaintance of mine ended his life as he was upset due to some incidence. Since then I am also very upset. I thought I would share my thoughts with everyone.

Time never stays the same and just like that circumstances often change. We have to adjust with changing times and changing circumstances.

There is no need to react to everything that bothers us. Wherever necessary, action can take place. Action is done after giving it a thought whereas reaction is instantaneous and random like a chemical.

Reacting to things that bother us gives someone else power over our feelings. As I often say/write, in such case our remote control is in someone else's hands.

We can't control what others do, but we can control how we react/act, how we handle it, how we look at it and how much we want to take it personally.

When we are stuck in a traffic jam because of the dancing bridal processions, it is better to take our attention somewhere else than to burn in anger. When the flight is cancelled it may be a better option to explore other possibilities than to yell in anger. When the situation is out of our control, it is wiser to accept the situation rather than react.

Let us work on ourselves and on our peace of mind and we will realize that not reacting to every little thing that bothers us, is the first component of living a happy and healthy life.

God bless you

Coach Pankaj Kothari, Indore

हमारा रिमोट कंट्रोल

कई बार ऐसा होता है जब किसी के कड़वे वचन हमें दुखी कर देते हैं। किसी का दिया हुआ ताना हमें छलनी कर देता है। 

और जब ऐसा होता है तो न सिर्फ हमारा मन खराब होता है, हमारा मूड खराब होता है, बल्कि हमारा काम खराब होता है, हमारा दिन खराब हो जाता है और कभी-कभी तो कई कई दिनों तक वह बात हमारे मन मस्तिष्क पर छाई रहती है। कभी-कभी तो यहां तक हो जाता है कि किसी एक व्यक्ति की सुनाई हुई बात हमें न सिर्फ व्यथित करती है, बल्कि हमारा गुस्सा - हमारा नैराश्य किसी अपने पर निकल जाता है। अब न केवल हम दुखी और परेशान हैं, बल्कि हमारा अपना भी दुखी और परेशान हो जाता है। 

आइए देखते हैं क्या यह मुमकिन है कि हम औरों के शब्द से व्यथित ना हो। 

300 से अधिक पुस्तकों के रचयिता श्रीमद् आचार्य विजय रत्नसुंदरसुरिजी अपनी पुस्तक "मुंबई तो मुंबई है" में लिखते हैं:

जो लकड़ी जमीन पर भारी लगती है, वही पानी में हल्की हो जाती है। 

जो थैला हाथ में भारी होता है, वही सर पर रखने पर हल्का प्रतीत होता है। 

हाथ में उठाए 20 कपड़े बोझ लगते हैं, वही 20 कपड़े बैग में रखने पर इतने भारी नहीं होते। 

हाथ में उठाया हुआ पानी का बर्तन भारी रखता है लेकिन वही पानी पेट में भार नहीं लगता, वरन् तृप्ति की अनुभूति देता है। 

ठीक इसी तरह जीवन में जो भी परेशानी या कष्ट आते हैं, असुविधाएं या मुश्किलें आती हैं, मन यदि उन सबके विरोध में होता है तो वह सब कुछ मन के लिए दुःखदाई और त्रासदायी हो जाता है। परंतु मन यदि इनको स्वीकार करता है तो वह लेशमात्र भी दुखदाई या त्रासदायी नहीं होता। 

दुःख हमारा ही सर्जन है। व्यक्ति यदि दुःखी होना चाहता है, तो जरा सी प्रतिकूलता या जरा सा कष्ट भी उसे दुखी कर सकता है। वहीं यदि व्यक्ति दुखी नहीं होना चाहता है तो दुनिया का कोई भी तत्व या कोई भी परिस्थिति उसे दुखी नहीं कर सकती।

-आचार्य विजय रत्नसुंदरसूरिजी

तो इस प्रकार यदि हम दुखी या व्यथित होना चाहते हैं तो दूसरे के शब्द हमें दुखी या व्यथित करेंगे और हम दुखी या व्यथित नहीं होना चाहते हैं तो कोई कुछ भी कह दे हम न दुखी न व्यतीत होंगे। 

यह कमाल है हमारी चयन शक्ति जाने की पावर ऑफ चॉइस का।

यदि औरों के शब्द हमें विचलित करते हैं तो हमारा रिमोट कंट्रोल औरों के पास ही हुआ ना। हम यदि दुखी नहीं होना चाहते तो कोई कुछ भी कह दे, हम दुखी क्यों होवें?

आईये अबसे अपने मूड का, अपने जीवन का रिमोट कंट्रोल किसी और को ना दें।

⚒ Toolkit for Wellbeing 🛠

💖 Impact Margdarshan 💖 

Presents this Toolkit for present time:      

# Social Media Distancing              

Either totally refrain from them or at least stop looking at all the negativity there on all sort of media: Print, electronic and social.

# From Depressed to Delighted by being Creative

Use Creativity for overcoming stress, anxiety and depression. Also use creativity in problem solving as we cannot solve today's problem with yesterday's solutions. 

# Journalize your thoughts   

As first task after you wake up in the morning, write whatever comes to your mind for 45 minutes or 6 long pages, whichever is earlier. 

# Extend Helping Hands        

Others may also be in trouble, extend help to them. You will forget your issues for the time being and will feel great after helping. 

# Be in Consciousness - Awareness

Instead of doing things on autopilot mode, practice and be present. If we are aware of what's bothering us, we may choose to refrain from thinking about it. 

# Accept the Uncontrollable

Our of all the issues bothering you, focus and solve controllable and learn to accept the uncontrollable. 

# Be in Gratitude      

Write minimum three gratitude statements everyday. 

# Care for Mother Nature

Calamities and pandemic are outcome of exploitation of nature, care instead.

# Seek Forgiveness

As per Karmik theory, everything is karma based, hence Forgiveness heals and cleanses.

Feel free to discuss, seek clarification or disagree.

Pankaj Kothari

WA 9425064957

💖 रिश्तों में मिठास 💖

 💖 रिश्तों में मिठास 💖 

कई बार ऐसा होता है किसी एक व्यक्ति का किया हुआ कोई एक काम हमें हमेशा याद रहता है और उसकी यादें यदि खट्टी है तो वह व्यक्ति प्रायः हमें बुरा ही लगता है। 😕 हम ऐसे बहुत सारे तर्कहीन विश्वास/इरेशनल बीलिफ्स/Irrational Beliefs रिश्तों में बना लेते हैं। 

आइए पड़ताल करें, 🤔 ऐसे रिश्तों की, और ढूंढे एक बुरी याद के अलावा वो सारी अच्छी बातें जो उस रिश्ते से जुड़ी हैं। उन बातों के लिए कृतज्ञता ज्ञापित करें और संवार लें उस व्यक्ति के साथ अपने रिश्ते को। बात छोटी सी है, लेकिन है पते की। 

राधा के पिता अक्सर उसके लिए उपहार लाते रहते थे, किन्तु एक बार उन्होंने राधा से वादा किया कि वह उसके लिए घड़ी ⏰ लाएंगे किसी वजह से वे घड़ी नहीं ला पाए तो राधा को न केवल बुरा लगा बल्कि यह बात उसके दिल में बैठ गई। यह घटना राधा की बचपन की थी, किंतु बड़ी होकर भी राधा के मन से यह बात नहीं निकली और अक्सर पिता के साथ उसके रिश्ते में यह कहीं न कहीं झलकता था। 

फिर एक बार काउंसलिंग के दौरान जब यह बात सामने आई, तब राधा ने अपने उस तर्कहीन विश्वास यानी इरेशनल बिलीफ को दूर किया और पिता के साथ उसका रिश्ता बेहतर हो गया। पिता से जुड़ी तमाम अच्छी यादों के लिए कृतज्ञता की सहायता से राधा ने अपने तर्कहीन विश्वास को परे हटाया।

जैसे हम घर की साफ सफाई करते हैं जाले व धूल झाड़ते हैं, आईये! वैसे ही रिश्तों पर जमे जाले व धूल भी झाड़ते हैं ना। ऐसा ना हो कि हमारा एक तर्कहीन विश्वास/इरेशनल बिलीफ हमारे रिश्तों की मिठास को खटास में बदल दे, हम वंचित हो जाएं एक खूबसूरत रिश्ते से। 

तो चलिए झाड़ते हैं रिश्तों के ऊपर से तर्कहीन विश्वास/इरेशनल बिलीफ्स की धूल और जाले।

रिश्तों की मिठास की शुभकामनाऐं 

💐✨✨✨✨✨✨✨

💖 कृतज्ञता की शक्ति 💖

💖 कृतज्ञता की शक्ति 💖

हमारी Shape Up Your Life Magically with Gratitude कार्यशाला की एक प्रतिभागी ने अपना अनुभव हमारे साथ बांटा। वह कहने लगी कि उनकी किसी परिचिता ने उन्हें जली कटी सुनाना शुरू किया। तब उन्होंने सोचा कि  उनके पास तो कृतज्ञता का कवच है तो किसी की कड़वी बातें उन पर क्यों असर करें! 

परिचित उन्हें भला-बुरा कहती रही और वह निर्विकार भाव से सुनती रही। उनके मन में बस यही चल रहा था कि मेरे पास कृतज्ञता का कवच है, मैं पूरे वक्त कृतज्ञता में रहती हूं, तो मुझे इन बातों से कोई अंतर नहीं पड़ना चाहिये।

आगे वे बताती है कि अंततोगत्वा उनकी परिचित ने अपनी बात एक सकारात्मक मोड़ पर समाप्त की। 

तो कृतज्ञता की शक्ति है ना बङे ही कमाल की।  कृतज्ञता दरअसल तमाम नकारात्मक बातों के लिए हमारे पास एक रक्षा कवच का काम करती है। 

तो आइए आप भी जुड़ जाएं कृतज्ञता की इस मुहिम के साथ। अपनाएं कृतज्ञता की शक्ति को। बने रहे हर वक्त कृतज्ञता में और फिर आपके पास भी होगा कृतज्ञता का रक्षा कवच।

#powerofgratitude 

#empowerment 

#armourofgratitude

#shapeuplifemagically

जिंदगी ना मिलेगी दोबारा

 जिंदगी ना मिलेगी दोबारा 

यह शीर्षक पढ़ कर आपको रितिक रोशन की फिल्म याद आ गई होगी। जी, आपको वही याद दिलाना भी चाहता हूं। 

इन दिनों व्हाट्सएप पर बहुत सारी एडवेंचर एक्टिविटीज के वीडियो वायरल हो रहे हैं। कई बार तो साइकिलिस्ट खतरनाक पहाड़ी इलाकों में साइकिल चलाते हुए नजर आते हैं जहाँ एक छोटी सी भूल और..... 

कृपया मेरी बात को अन्यथा ना लें, किन्तु आम तौर पर पाश्चात्य संस्कृति में यह बहुधा प्रचलित होता है, क्योंकि वहां जीवन पर परिवारवाद या समूहवाद की जगह व्यक्तिवाद हावी रहता है जबकि भारत वर्ष में हम अपने लिए कम, और परिवार के लिए ज्यादा जीते हैं। ऐसे में खतरनाक एडवेंचर पर जाना और अपनी जान जोखिम में डालना, पूरे परिवार के लिए मुश्किलें खड़ी कर सकता है। किसी अपने के चले जाने से सभी का जीवन पल भर में बदल जाता है, यह आप भी मानेंगे।

यदि हमें ऐसा लगता है कि जिंदगी दोबारा नहीं मिलेगी अतः कुछ अलग ही कर लें, तो आइए ना कुछ अलग करें। 

देखते हैं कितने लोग कुछ अलग करते हैं, जो एडवेंचरस होता है, जैसे सैनिक न सिर्फ जान जोखिम में डालते हैं बल्कि देश की और देशवासियों की रक्षा भी करते हैं। ठीक इसी प्रकार चिकित्सा-कर्मी अपनी व अपनों की परवाह न करते हुए, दूसरों की जान बचाते हैं। और इसी तरह समाजसेवी भी औरों के लिए जीते हैं। मैं ऐसे बहुत सारे लोगों को जानता हूं जो युवावस्था से ही समाज सेवा में जुट जाते हैं। हाल ही में काउंसलिंग के दौरान एक युवती ने यह महसूस किया कि वह समाज सेवा के लिए ही बनी हैं। तब उन्होंने CA पाठ्यक्रम छोड़कर, राजस्थान का एक एनजीओ ज्वाइन किया। एक लब्ध प्रतिष्ठित परिवार की यह कन्या आज अपना पूरा जीवन सामाजिक संगठन को समर्पित कर चुकी हैं। 

देश की स्वतंत्रता के लिए अपना सर्वस्व न्योछावर करना हो या कोढ़ियों की सेवा हेतु अपना जीवन अर्पण, इनके सामने दुनिया का कोई adventure कुछ भी नहीं है। तभी कोई व्यक्ति महात्मा या बाबा आमटे बनता है।

आपको नहीं लगता यह सभी लोग अपने जीवन में न सिर्फ कोई एडवेंचर कर रहे हैं, बल्कि जिंदगी ना मिलेगी दोबारा के थीम पर अपनी जिंदगी जी रहे हैं। 

तो सिर्फ मौज मस्ती के लिए जान को जोखिम में डालने के बजाए क्यों ना ऐसा किया जाए जिससे देश का, समाज का, लोगों का या पर्यावरण का कुछ भला भी हो जाए। और इन गतिविधियों से जो आनंद प्राप्त होगा ना, वह चिर स्थायी भी होगा - long lasting. 😇🤩

मुझे पूरा विश्वास है कि आपको मेरी यह सोच पसंद आएगी। आइए ऐसा adventure करें, जो किसी के काम आए, ना कि हमारी जान जाए  और परिवार पर मुसीबत आए।

हमारा यह एडवेंचर छोटा ही सही लेकिन लोक हित में हो।

वर्तमान की शक्ति

 🙏🏻वर्तमान की शक्ति 🙏🏻

हम में से अधिकतर लोग अपने विचारों में डुबे हुए ही कई काम करते हैं। जैसे गाड़ी चलाते या भोजन करते हुए हम सोचते रहते हैं। कई बार तो हमें भान ही नहीं होता कि हम कहाँ चले गए या कितना खा गए।

जब हम विचारों में खोए होते हैं तब या तो हम भूत काल में चले जाते हैं या भविष्य में पहुंच जाते हैं।यानी हम स्मृतियों में होते हैं या सपनों में। ऐसे में हम क्या कर रहे हैं उसका हमें भान/ख्याल ही नहीं होता।

ऐसी स्थिति में हम कई बार गलत कदम उठा लेते हैं यथा: स्वयं को समाप्त कर लेना, किसी अन्य को मार देना, कुछ चुरा लेना, घर छोड़ कर चले जाना, किसी वस्तु को उठाकर फेंक देना, आदि। इसी वजह से अक्सर बाद में पछतावा होता है।

सबसे श्रेष्ठ उपाय है कि हम विचारों में खोने के बजाय जागृति में रहकर कार्य करें। धुन में कार्य करने की बजाय ध्यान से कार्य करें। ऑटो पायलट के स्थान पर जाग्रति में, चेतना में यानी conscious/aware रहकर काम करें।

आईये हम जागृति में रहने का अभ्यास करें, वर्तमान की शक्ति का प्रयोग करें।

आपका जीवन चेतना व जाग्रति से परिपूर्ण व शुभ हो।

Empowering Self

Empowering Self

We create our experience through the thoughts we nurture.

When we fear about, or worry for something, we empower it. The more we fear or worry anything, the more we empower it. The more we fear or worry anything the more we give control to it.

When we fear or worry something, we tell the universe, "Please send me the thing I fear/worry." Then universe keeps sending it to us till we wish to take our Power back. 

When do we wish to take our power back, the choice is ours.

When do we wish to claim our life back, the choice is ours.

Let us be aware of our thoughts and replace thoughts of fear or worry with that of Gratitude.

Let us choose Empowering thoughts. Let us choose Gratitude.

Journaling to Curb your Overthinking

Highly Powerful Technique - Journaling 📄✍

How often do we review our day? Do you check your Thoughts.

Just imagine, if we do something, but we don't review it, what would be the fate? 

And now related to your day. You spend the entire day doing something or not doing something and you don't review it. Will you be able to to revise, correct or change the way you pass your day? 

Just like that, if you are over thinking, you are focusing on problems and not solutions. Or may be you are just thinking and not able to reach to conclusion or not able to implement the solution.

So, I am sharing a very simple but highly powerful tool to do this task of reviewing your day.

Here we go: 

Before you go to sleep, write down these two things:

First write three gratitude statements for three good things that has happened during the day.

This will help you shift your focus from negative or unwanted things to positive things.

Another is please write highlights of the day incorporating your thoughts and feelings.

If you felt bad, check what were you thinking? We waste lot of time thinking about things we feel bad about.

If you do these regularly, soon you will observe a shift in the thought pattern.

By Self Observation, correction takes place automatically. Journaling is a simple yet powerful tool for Self Observation. 

Use this tool and please share your experiences. Feel free to get your doubts resolved. Mail or WA. or write in comments below.

Are you feeling low!!!

 Are you feeling low!!! 😞

If yes, and if you do not know what to do here is a suggestion:

Check the issue which is bothering you, whether it is controllable or uncontrollable? Is it within your reach or beyond your reach?

If it is within your reach, do something to resolve. I'm sure you must be generally doing this with controllable issues.

If it is beyond your reach, you need to learn to accept it. 

The mantra is "accepting the uncontrollable."

A friend of mine was perturbed because he was living out of India and was unable to come to India to attend an important wedding in the family. Due to pandemic, it was not possible for him to fly to India. This was the reason for him to feel low. 

He was upset for something which is uncontrollable. If he accepts this, he can enjoy the the online video streaming of the wedding. In fact lot of young couples staying abroad are actually attending various family events online only. They get dressed up according to the occasion even if they are not physically present.

This is possible only when they accept that this is uncontrollable and they need to to adjust accordingly.

So don't resist the new normal, accept it and act accordingly. 

"Acceptance" is the mantra.

आदतों की विरासत

आखिर अपने बड़ों पर ही जाते हैं बच्चे ........
स्कूल के पहले दिन...
बेटा : पापा आपको मेरे स्कूल बुलाया है !
पिता : क्या हुआ...?
बेटा : गणित के मास्टर ने पूछा 7x9 कितने..?
मैंने बोला ..63 !
पिता :.... तो ?
बेटा : तब उसने पूछा 9x7 .....कितने..?
पिता : तो गधे इसमें अंतर क्या है ...?
बेटा : बिलकुल , मैंने भी ऐसे ही कहा !

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दूसरे दिन
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बेटा : पापा ...आप मेरे स्कूल गए..?
पिता : नहीं ..!
बेटा : ठीक है... मेरे Gym मास्टर भी ...आपसे मिलना चाहते हैं ..!
पिता : अब ...क्या हुआ ?
बेटा : उन्होने मुझे पहले कहा ....अपना दायाँ हाथ उठाओ, ...
फिर कहा बायाँ हाथ उठाओ, ...
फिर दायाँ पैर, फिर बायाँ पैर..!
पिता : तो अब क्या तू अपने पेट पर खडा होगा..?
बेटा : बिलकुल ...मैंने भी यही कहा !

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तीसरे दिन
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बेटा : पापा आप स्कूल गए कि नहीं !
पिता : नहीं गया क्यूँ ...?
बेटा : मुझे स्कूल से निकाल दिया !
पिता : अब क्या कह दिया तूने ?
बेटा : मुझे प्रिंसीपल ने बुलाया ! मैंने अंदर जाकर देखा, वहाँ गणित व जिम के टीचर्स बैठे थे और डान्स टीचर भी बैठी थे !
पिता : डाँस टीचर  .... वहाँ क्या डान्स कर रही थी ...?
बेटा : बिलकुल ; पापा मैंने भी अंदर घुसते ही यही पूछा..!!

ये मात्र चुटकुला नहीं है, मानव की हकीकत है ।
हर इन्सान अपनी अच्छी बुरी आदतें माता पिता से ही ग्रहण करता है।

आईए अपन बडों के patterns/पैटर्न ग्रहण करने के बजाय हम अपने पैटर्नस् बदले और अपने बच्चों को भी।

Courtesy costs nothing: Using Power of Choice to be Courteous

Sanjay had to go to the railway station. When he tried to catch an auto rickshaw, he could find many rickshaws passing by. He tried to stop them, but in vain. Finally one rickshaw stopped which appeared to be new. A decent driver invited him to board in. Driver came out and took the luggage to adjust in his rickshaw.

Sanjay was really impressed with his friendly gestures. Sanjay asked him his name. 'I am Sonu.’ He replied very confidently. Then he very humbly asked Sanjay if he could continue the music. Sanjay consented. The music was very soothing.

Sonu asked, “Which train you want to catch, sir?”

Sanjay replied, “Avantika.”

Sonu volunteered, “Okay, then I will take you to Siyaganj side of the station. You will directly reach the platform.”

Sanjay asked him, “Are you aware of details of all the trains?” Sonu replied
“Yes Sir. I want my passengers to reach their destination conveniently. Hence I need to keep myself updated.”

Sanjay is very talkative, so he took the conversation ahead, “Is this your own rickshaw? Recently purchased?”

Sonu rejoiced, ‘Yes Sir! It is my own rickshaw. Recently purchased but it is pre-owned. I maintain it so well that it appears to be new. After all it earns me my bread and butter, sir.”

'Tell me, Sonu,' Sanjay was amazed and asked him, 'Are you always courteous with your passengers like this?'

Sonu looked through the mirror and smiled. “No, Sir. It is only in the last one year. In my first two years of driving, I spent most of my time complaining like others and having arguments with passengers, other drivers and policemen. My days used to be very frustrating and hence back home I generally used to have arguments with Manjusha, my wife. Then I heard about power of choice one day.”

“I used to be like most of the rickshaw drivers – rude, greedy, careless. Then one day, a passenger like you boarded my rickshaw. In fact, he was going to Sarafa Bazar to enjoy Dahi Vada at Joshi’s. He took me along to enjoy Dahi Vada. He told me about Power of choice and that how Joshi used his Power of Choice and has become so famous.”

“This passenger said that I can choose to be careless about my rickshaw and complain about repercussions. Else I can choose to be careful for it and Stop complaining! I can choose to be rude with passengers and end up arguing with most of them or I can choose to be courteous with passengers and both me and my passengers will be happy.”

“I looked around at the other rickshaws and their drivers. The ricks were dirty, the drivers were rude, and the passengers were unhappy. So I decided to change. I put in some efforts at a time. When my passengers responded well, I did more. My income is ever increasing since then. Many passengers call me on my cell.”

Sanjay new about my ‘Power of Choice’ and ‘Dahi Vada’ Philosophies, so he called me to share this story of Sonu and he also shared Sonu’s cell number with me. I was very happy to get the feedback about Sonu so I connected back with him. Since then I am in regular touch with Sonu. He has relocated to Ujjain and runs a business there. He leads a peaceful and happy life with his wife and little princess.

Sonu made a different choice. He chose to be courteous.

Dahi Vada Philosophy: For Professional and Personal Lives

For the then beautiful city of Lahore it was said that “Jin Lahore nai vekhya, woh janmiyan-i nai,” which means that one who has not seen Lahore is not born.

In today’s time we can say this for Joshi’s Dahi Vada. If you have not visited Joshi in Indore’s Sarafa, I will strongly recommend you to at-least once do this.

Dahi Vada: Delicious invitation...

Dahi Vada in itself is such a delicious thing that hardly anyone would dislike it. A soft spongy stuff soaked in fresh and thick curd and garnished with sweet-sour chutney on it and aroma of spices sprinkled on it give us an invitation to enjoy this delicious dish.

Sone pe Suhaga: Joshi’s Dahi Vada at Sarafa of Indore

Dahi Vada and that too from Joshi’s at Sarafa of Indore. The way he welcomes his customers cannot be described in words, its warmth can only be felt.

His sweet way of talking is icing on the cake or so to say chutney and spices on Dahi Vada. He keeps Dahi Vada in a bowl and pours fresh and thick curd on it. He then throws it up from one hand, it spins and goes up, comes down which he catches it in his other hand.

He then hides different spices among his fingers and sprinkle them on Dahi Vada. One is amazed to see his style of doing this.

Lessons

Joshi’s Dahi Vada teaches us a philosophy for life. Dahi Vada in itself is a wonderful thing. There are many thing to be learnt from it. The way Joshi serves Dahi Vada teaches us few more thing we can adopt in our lives.

Soaked in Water: Free from weaknesses

If you eat a fried Vada you may not like it as it is not just tasteless but oily too. It is therefore first soaked in water for few hours so that oil comes out and it becomes soft. Then it is pressed to remove the water also.

We must also overcome our weaknesses like Vada leaves oil in water and then water also comes out. After we overcome our weaknesses, we face lesser threats.

Absorbing Curd: Open for Value addition

Dahi Vada is made with such stuff that it has a capacity to absorb curd. As stated above after soaking in water, Vada is pressed so that both oil and water comes out. Now it is ready for absorbing curd and also for chutney and spices.

Similarly we must also be ready for value addition. We must also explore what all additions would be beneficial for us. Identifying and overcoming weaknesses is crucial for all of us. Just like that sustained value addition is a must for our growth.

Joshi’s Style: Enjoying our work

Joshi also gives us beautiful messages of life. First and foremost is – while selling Dahi Vada he is always in good mood and he enjoys doing that. He is so cheerful and energetic that his style makes his customers also cheerful and energetic.

We can also work enjoying our jobs. Whatever we do, we can always enjoy it. We can either do what we enjoy or if it is not feasible for certain reasons, we can enjoy what we are doing

Delighting the customer: Making difference for people we serve

Joshi delights his customers with his pleasing style of conversation and highly energetic serving. With his style he delights his customers, he makes their day.

Like Joshi, we can also make it a point to make a difference in the lives of people we serve. We can also aim at delighting the people we serve.

Joshi’s Attention: Power of Now

While actually entertaining his customers, Joshi is always attentive on what he is doing. If he is not attentive he may not be able to catch Dahi Vada. He actually uses his power of now while he serves his customers.

Exercising power of now is something which can always help all of us all the time in whatever we do. Using our power of now helps us do things more effectively and with better efficiency.

Joshi chose different style: Power of Choice

Joshi could also sell Dahi Vada like other vendors do, but he chose to do it differently. He does it in his way and makes a difference. Had he chose the option of doing it like others he may not have had such name, fame and money. With the other option, he is so famous that people take their guests to his shop to enjoy more than Dahi Vada which obviously gets him more business and profit.

We also have Power of Choice all the time and in whatever we do. We can choose to be Victims of circumstances or we can take charge of our own lives. We can choose to pass our day and life just like that or we can choose to enjoy each day of our lives.

What will you choose?

Visit Joshi just to enjoy Dahi Vada or also to learn from it.

Just read the article or also follow the learning's

Wish you a life full of Josh.

Rise and Shine

I am really blessed that my Gurus came in my life at different points in time and guided me whenever I needed a direction so that I could ‘Rise and Shine.’ Now I am trying to repay at-least a part of what I got from my Gurus. Hence I have made it my mission to spread their messages among people so that anyone and everyone can ‘Rise and Shine.’

Sit on a seed to rise and shine???

A boy was sitting in a ground for a pretty long time. Looking at this, people asked him why he was doing so. He very innocently replied, “I want to rise and shine.”

“But you are just sitting here, doing nothing. How will you rise and shine?” Someone asked.

“I have sowed a seed here, someday there will be a tree here and I will automatically rise. Once I will be on the top of the tree, I will shine with the sun-shine.” He innocently replied.

Poor boy did not realize that if he will sit on the seed, there will be no plant, what to say about his automatic rising with tree.

The boy’s story shows us the power of choice that we all have. We can either sit on a seed or can climb up a tree. We always have this power of choice with us. We always have two options; with the power of choice we can choose the right option.

Anyone willing to rise and shine has to put sincere efforts for it. What all efforts will be required? Will it be possible for anyone to do it?

You are different, you are very special.

Let us deal with the second question first. Everyone is different from others. More than that everyone is very special. Everyone is blessed. And particularly you are really different and blessed. You are reading this article, which shows that you are different from millions of people who may not venture to read it, or from many others who may not be even read anything, or from many others who even cannot read anything. You were under no compulsion to read this, yet you are reading, that shows you are different and special. You too are blessed hence you are getting the message which I got from my Gurus.

And now the first question i.e., what all efforts are required. You need to do self-analysis. If you do it genuinely, you will know your strengths and weaknesses. Once you know your strengths, you can always bank upon them. Similarly, when you know your weaknesses, you can anytime start working to overcome them. This will help you to rise and shine.

Even after knowing our strengths and weaknesses and banking upon our strengths and overcoming our weaknesses, we may not rise and shine. Something stops us from rising and shining, what is it? What stops us?

‘You can’ rise and shine

There was an average boy from a lower middle class family, who studied in a Hindi medium school run by the Government in a small town. He was so much shy, that if he had guests at home, he will not come out of the room to greet them. He was, in fact, highly introvert. Today he travels throughout the country and delivers his talks. He has, by now imparted trainings to tens of thousands of young men and women on Pan-India basis.

This boy is none other but the author of these lines. I am sharing all this with you not for self-boasting but for giving you an example of rising from ground and shining. Entire world and specially our country have lots of examples wherein people have risen to greater heights from ground level. All of them had one thing in common – ‘Can Do’ attitude. You can also rise to greater heights, if you too have ‘Can Do’ attitude. If you want to rise and shine, you will have to develop this ‘Can Do’ attitude.

With ‘Can Do’ attitude also many may not rise and shine. Where do they lack?

Difference between ‘steel and gold coin’

What is the difference between a One Rupee note and a One Thousand Rupees note lying in your valet? What is the difference between them if you want to buy something from them? The difference is not much if the two notes are in your valet but if you want to use them to buy something, the difference is bigger.

Just like that, difference between you and an ordinary person may not be very big unless you use your full potential to rise and shine. And for this one has to take charge of one’s own life.

Many humans are actually EMM’s: Excuse making machines. Whatever we wish to do or not do, we have excuse for that. If someone wants to do something he will say, “Oh because of this I had to do it.” If someone does not wants to do something he will say, “Oh because of that I could not do it.” That is why I am of the view that we have excuses for whatever we want to do (or not do). We generally are EMM’s.

But if we really wish to rise and shine, we must take charge of our own life. We should take responsibility of our own life. We must be answerable to ourselves. In place of excuses, we must have rationality for whatever we want to do (or not do). We must not be EMM’s. Instead we must have logic, reason, rational or justification for everything we want. Particularly for whatever we want to do, be or have, we must have a rational for it, why do we want to do, be or have something.

So now after self analysis, using our power of choice and taking charge of our life may we rise and shine? Still not. What is wrong?

Right Direction

A young man was driving his car on a highway to go to the nearby city. He got stuck in traffic jam so he diverted from the highway, asked someone and that person showed him a way and said, “You will reach faster by this route.” So he took that other route. He drove for almost four hours and had travelled almost 300 KM’s but he could not reach his destination. He was shocked to know then that the other person misguided him and he was in wrong direction and was still 400 KM’s from the city which was just 250 KM’s from his own city.

Was he not putting his efforts to go to the other city? Certainly he was, but not in right direction. To rise and shine, we must also put our efforts in right direction.

Now the steps to rise and shine:

I-O-E-U-A

A-E-I-O-U are five consonants. If we rearrange them as above they signify the Guru-mantra to rise and shine as follows:

Imagine, dream, see or visualize what you want to do, be or have for rising and shining. Forty seconds of focused visualizing and feeling yourself doing, being or having what you want gets you the same. Practice it for your smaller wishes and gradually try it out for anything and everything. With this technique you can manifest what you want to do, be or have.

Organize, develop a plan or make a plan of action for your wishes. You might already know, ‘If we fail to plan, we plan to fail.’ So plan for doing, being or getting what you want.

Execute what you have planned. Act as per your plan of action. Many of us do lot of planning but we may not implement our plans. This renders entire task of planning futile.

Utilize your full potential to get what you want to do, be or have. Whatever you choose to do, be or have, give your 100% to it. We generally like discount, but no discount should be there when it comes to giving our 100% to whatever we are doing to do, be or have what we want.

Accept the things which are beyond our control. Acceptance causes disappearance whereas resistance causes persistence. This phrase does not advocate the acceptance of status quo, but when thing cannot be changes it is better to accept whatever is there.

Following the aforementioned will definitely help you ‘Rise and Shine’ in your life. I will pray for your success in rising and shining. May the good God bless you with best of everything.

Improve your English

Many of my trainees ask me how they should improve their English. Hence this post on how one can improve one’s English.

Improve your Learning Skills

Learning in itself is a skill and hence it can be improved. Here are FOUR steps towards improving your Learning Skills:

Self Awareness
Learning effectively is possible by developing self concept. To put it differently one can learn better through knowing:

• How far one is able to learn
• How has one learned successfully in the past
• What are one’s interest in the field, and
• How much is one’s knowledge of what one is willing to learn

Self Motivation
One must ensure that one is motivated to learn English so that one will not become so frustrated as to give up. One can check the following honestly:

• Why does one need to learn/improve English?
• Where will one need to use English?
• What is one required to do in English? (Read/Write/Listen/Speak)
• When is one’s deadline for English improvement?
• How much time can one afford to devote to it?
• How much money can one afford for it?

Set SMART Goals
For improving one’s English, one should set smart goals as follow:

• Specific
• Measurable
• Attainable
• Realistic
• Time-bound

Dedicating short time each day to learn English will give better, longer-term results than a half or full day on the weekend and then nothing for a week.

A good motivation to attain one’s goals is to have a system of rewards and punishments. One must decide on a reward one will give oneself for attaining one’s goals.

Know the learning method that suits to you
There are different ways to learn. One can find out what kind of learner one is, in order to better understand how to learn more effectively. One can also check whether one is an auditory learner, a kinesthetic learner or a visual learner, accordingly one can take part in activities, listen more or watch/observe lessons.

One must do something regularly in this matter. If one doesn't do anything, one won't get anywhere. One can make it a habit, and above all have fun.

There is no need to be in a hurry. One is on a long journey and there'll be delays and frustrations along the way. One can always try to really enjoy the experience.

Improve your English

There are many ways to improve the level of English, but only the person himself/herself can find the right way for him/her. Here are a few steps that will surly help:

Reading
To get comfortable with the language, read regularly an English newspaper, magazine, book or novel. It can be even a sports or film magazine.

Research has shown it takes about three months of daily practice to develop strong mouth muscles for speaking a new language. Hence it is recommended to read aloud.

Writing
Develop written language. With requisite vocabulary one can communicate well.

Speaking
Speak in English as much as possible. Try spoken English on anyone who will be able to respond. Don't be afraid of making mistakes.

Listening Others
Keep the ears open for the accent. Watch the English news on Television.

Similarly have someone proficient to read aloud something. Watch how they move their lips while pronouncing certain words.

Listening Self
Recording and listening own voice and catching pronunciation mistakes can help avoid them. This is a very important exercise because doing it helps becoming conscious of the mistakes made.

Learn Grammar
Grammar is important. The parts of speech, tenses, form of verb, articles, etc. contribute to fluency. One can make an effort to learn them.

Build Vocabulary Dictionary can be made a friend. Refer to it when come across a new word. Familiarize with its meaning and use it in a sentence.

Familiarize with the phonetic symbols of the dictionary. Look for correct pronunciation of words.
Learn one new word a day. To increase active vocabulary, start memorizing the meaning of a word heard and use it regularly to absorb it vocabulary.

Think in English
Learners generally think in native language first, translate it in English and then speak. The best way is to directly THINK IN ENGLISH and speak. In general also thinking, not done for speaking, may be done in English.

With these Spoken English will improve, but not if commitment is lacking.

Keep in mind the skills involved in any language are Listening, Speaking, Reading and Writing. Any single one can't be developed in isolation.

I started thinking about it and realized that I was lucky to learn it in spite of having done my schooling with Hindi medium.

Expose to the language as much as possible by reading anything in that language. You will find it a huge benefit to listen to the language and to practice conversation with others as much as possible.

Key Points
Overcome fear of making mistakes. Mistakes are bound to happen but keep in mind:

“Resistance causes persistence, Acceptance causes disappearance”

Avail every opportunity you have to speak with people in English. Talk to friends who are also learning English. Hang out together and speak only in English.

Listen to and sing English songs.

Be patient with yourself. Learning any language can be frustrating. Be master of yourself, be in-charge of yourself, have self control.

He Moves Our Cheese

Who moved your cheese? The power to move anybody’s cheese in the world lies with... The Almighty
Whatever happens to us is as per his wish and his wisdom. He knows what is the Best for us. Keep in mind: Every happening has a Purpose in life
When we look back in our lives for days when we faced a problem, and check our strength, we realize that: After every trial we become stronger
We must remember: During the time of our suffering and trials he is always with us. Because of him only our difficulties get reduced, else things and circumstances would have worsen.
Life is easier as He is with us.